done many trips with the g/f. set the rules right away. first trip we did, i just assumed she knew how things went.
#1: NO CAMPING for her!!!! she did not enjoy riding hundreds of miles then crawling in a tent only to get soaked with that nights rain. who knew that was an important consideration. LOL
#2: no two up riding. apparently she doesn't appreciate my riding style at all.
#3: out of state trips now days she takes the truck and tows her bike, then rides when we get where we are going.
this year she wants to take a trip on her own bike and try to ride the whole thing. no problem I'll cut my expected mileage down 30% but I know in advance. honestly I may pull a camper with the truck and put the bike in the trailer, I've done enough highway touring miles to last a lifetime. it's boring. I'll just let her and some of our buds do the ride together. none of them has done a longer trip so they want to try it.
probably best if you either go alone (just the two of you) or only with other couples. otherwise single guys tend to get antsy about the "couple" pace. one guy in our group took off towards the end of the trip and made the trek home on his own. no big deal, but it put a damper on her feelings because she thought it was her fault.
decide what riding you're going to do when you get there and do it with her. one guy on a run with us left his wife in the mountains in the rain and took off because she couldn't keep up due to nerves with rain and curves. she had never ridden rain. we stayed with her through the curves.
have her practice packing for a bike trip. many people don't understand pack light. LOL giver her a saddle bag and say that's your luggage, what fits goes, what doesn't stays home.
overall we enjoy riding trips together as long as we both compromise on how we're going to get there and what we'll do when we get there. rainy rides are out for us unless she gets caught and absolutely has to keep going. she can and has done it but doesn't like rain. be prepared to skip a ride and just sit in a hot tub for a day. not always a bad thing. LOL
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